If youre dating in yourlate20s, chances are youvebeen in and out of so many shitty relationships, so youreused to dating jerks. You think you have to put up with douchebags and man babies.
But with all this douchebaggery, is it possiblewevebecome so cynicalthat we think a guy is not into us because he takes his time to get to know us before he gets involved? Is it possible ourgeneration wouldntdetect romance if it hit us in the head with a Louboutin?
I didnt realize how romantically damaged I was until I dated a good guy.
When hetook his time to make a move, I didnt realize hewas just being a gentleman. I was too busy sending him off to the island of lost dates,along with the rest of my previous undesirables.
Lets be real: Were not really looking for a man to send us long heart-felt love letters. Were just looking for someone toopen the door for us if we want him to and have our back.
Here are 9 signs the guy youre dating is actually a good guy:
1. He challenges you.
And not by playing twisted mental games. I mean he challenges you intellectually.
He enriches your life with his culture, books, travels, life stories Basically you dont feel your IQ decreasing each time youtwohave a conversation.
2. He just wants to be near you.
He doesnt care about the details of your date plans, as long as they are with you.
Good guys love to joke with you, or just curl up in bed in complete silence while holding you in their arms. They know they donthave to be flashy to have a good time.
3. Hes open about past relationships with you.
Your good guy is comfortable talking about his previous relationships with you because he knows they areno threat to you.
Hes not trying to make you jealous. He only has eyes for you.
4. Hes interested inwhat you have to say.
Have you noticed he quotes your previous conversations? That means hes been paying close attention to every word that comes out of your mouth.
5. Hecalls to say goodnight.
The good guy doesnt give you a call at midnight tocome over for a booty call; he does it because he wantsto hear your voice before he does to bed.
6. He makes an effort totry things you like.
Even though he is comfortable doing just about anything with you, he enjoys making your time together interesting.
Hell buy tickets to a concert youve been wanting to go to, try a hot yoga sweat sesh, weekend wine tasting trips, cooking classes No more just hanging out and drinking booze.
7. He wants you to be the best version of yourself.
Your good guy encourages you to do your best at school and put in that extra effort at work. He has your best interests at heart. Thats the kind of person you want to be around.
8. Hes honest.
Yes, thats a clich. But it is also true.
The good guy is upfront, doesnt play mind games and speaks his mind. He doesnt have a problem expressing his feelings towards life, or towards you.
9. He doesnt freak about meeting your roommates.
Roommates are (almost) like family andonce hes met them, theyare involved in the relationship as well. That means he wont be on the island of lost dates just yet.
Every girl deserves her own good guy, soif you encounter one of these rare specimens, hold on!
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